Author Topic: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!  (Read 13331 times)

Letty Whiterock

Disclaimer: The views expressed in the following post do not necessarily represent those of the management of shrinemaiden.org or anyone involved with it other than myself. I am the messenger of my own message, so I claim full responsibility for what you're about to read.

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Listen up. I've had it up to here with this recent nonsense concerning IRC channels and staff idiocy, and so I'm taking my official stance here and now. I don't care what you think about what I have to say, but I'm saying it now. If you like it, awesome. If you agree, even better. If you hate me for it, you're entitled to that. If you want to leave, your hat and coat are by the door. If you want to be UsuallyDead and claim that I'm an incompetent, immature child, you are completely free to a biased, unreasonable idiot that is still incredibly sore about getting a stupid thread closed. That's all well and good to me. Anyways, let's get started.

Point #1: I want to address the main issue at hand: the IRC crisis.

This entire debacle started because of the problem I've been trying to address for months now: CPMC is the most prominent, most viewed, and most used board on the entire MotK forum. Why is this? It's because everyone has formed a nice little community to call home. Now, that's all well and good, and if you're trying to pretty much alienate the rest of the world and remain cozy in your little gated community, you're doing an excellent job. "Letty!" you exclaim. "How can you say such a thing!?" Quite simple, really.

Rule #2 of CPMC explicitly states, in detail, "don't post a thread here that can be posted somewhere else." Why do you think this rule is in effect? You don't know? I'll tell you.

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#1: CPMC is a subforum.

You do realize that the CPMC community is actually part of a larger community, yes? The entire shrinemaiden.org community, to be exact. It also turns out that outside of CPMC is this vast world with various places to post about whatever you want. "But Letty!" you exclaim once again. "I want to make a thread that addresses just the people of CPMC!" That's fine! What exactly is stopping the people of CPMC from, say, leaving the board and going to another part of the board to check out your thread? It's actually pretty damn selfish to want to keep discussion in CPMC. Why, you ask?

#2: Access to CPMC is restricted.

Some of you tend to forget about that anyone with a "Newbie" title cannot post in CPMC. Arguably good discussion actually does happen in that board, discussion that various <10-post users could quite actively participate in. Maybe one of those threads will be the key to integrating into the community! It's certainly not going to happen with the "Post Your Desktop" thread. However, because, for the most part, the people of CPMC have no general interest in the rest of the board (outside of maybe N-Forza's Japan-shop thread), there is little in the way of expanding the community. When the majority of discussion by the people of a forum is occurring in a board you can't even post in, what the hell is the point of registering in the first place? No new active members, combined with the circlejerk of a clique community, is the first step on the road to stagnation. In keeping everything within CPMC, you're contributing nicely.

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CPMC has become a tight-knit community, so tight-knit that you'd be perfectly happy with never having anyone new and the very thought of anything changing at all frightens and angers you. Thus, we come to the point of the IRC channel, #touhou-meido.

For quite some time, PPiRC has been the official home of MotK's IRC channel, #shrinemaiden. You can form your own opinions about what is good or bad about the channel. I don't really care, because that's not the point, and it really never was. The fact of the matter is that #shrinemaiden harbored the MotK community outside of the forum for the longest time, and TSO has done everything in his power to keep that running. (Sorry to interrupt, but I will be referring to TSO as "he/him" for the entirety of this post. So people like UncertainKitten, do not even bother responding to say that "he" is a "she" is a "he." Drop it.) Because TSO has full power over the server itself, it means that he can do pretty much anything he wants with it, and that includes doing things with that the MotK userbase would like as well. It can make your IRC experience even better, server-side. I'm pretty okay with that, actually, and really, you should be too.

The problem stems from the misconception that TSO's request to integrate #touhou-meido into PPiRC was a whining cry from someone who couldn't control people. I'm not sure how it came to that, but the entire idea was to simply put the channel on the server. Staff would remain the same, and the only power TSO would have is to pull the plug, which he would not do and you all know it. It would make access to #touhou-meido even easier for many, because TSO made a PPiRC web client for accessing #shrinemaiden that could no doubt be used to access #touhou-meido as well. That's pretty useful for people who are bound by certain restrictions and can't access the Dejatoons server via free clients like Mibbit, can't install an IRC client, or just don't understand how to work IRC at all.

Now, it should be made pretty clear that the only reason this came up is the CPMC community has taken it upon themselves to make #touhou-meido the official CPMC channel, and because CPMC is the biggest part of MotK at this point, that really makes it the official MotK channel by association. However, it has been said time and time again that this is not the case and should not be the case by our very own Pesco, the person in charge of it. In case you're unaware, here's an IRC log:

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<Pesco> Let's go back to the beginning
<Pesco> AS Trance says
<Pesco> It's a place to do the RP of MeidoRPG
<AtyHime> it slowly incorporated the UGW elements, and then since many people from CPMC went to it, it became a conglomerate of people from CPMC talking about pretty much anything
<Pesco> It is NOT CPMC's channel
<YoseiOnmyoji> I like it the way it is now
<Pesco> It is NOT MotK's official channel
<AtyHime> Nobody and I mean nobody has declared it to be any official channel
<Pesco> Even though nobody declares it as such, it is being treated as such
<AtyHime> 23:55:44 (Pesco) Even though nobody declares it as such, it is being treated as such <-- this is the real issue
<Pesco> Despite my reminders to people not to do that

This is how the CPMC community and their use of the #touhou-meido channel is seen by the person running the thing. People are blatantly turning the channel into the CPMC channel, despite his wishes, and some people have even admitted to not coming to CPMC or even MotK as a whole anymore. CPMC is, either knowingly or unknowingly, attempting to break away from the rest of the forum, and the clique community within it has no intention of addressing it or stopping it.

A number of us have noticed this trend, and as a result, we are watching a community that we have come to love and have been with for quite some time trying to break itself apart and secede from the main forum. TSO's request to bring #touhou-meido to PPiRC was his attempt to try and facilitate the community as best he could and keep it from breaking away, not because he wants to be under his control but because he cares. He maintains this forum from further behind the scenes than anyone else and maintains a server entirely for the sake of the Maidens of the Kaleidoscope community, and he basically gave all of you an invitation that read "Hey, I like you guys. I'm paying for these things, so come on and use them to your hearts' content." That way, the thing that he keeps for you to use can still be used, and you don't have to deal with people like Link and Suzuran. Pretty nice deal, I think. Instead, he is met with animosity, and eventually, a bigger problem comes to light, which is the second point.

Point #2: You don't like us. We get it.

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<UsuallyDead> I bascially just told TSO and LettyWhiterock that I think they're incompotents.
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<Jana> Eh, I don't dislike any of them,but I don't think that Letty's really the best mod...

It comes to light that part of the reason that people moved to #touhou-meido is because they don't want to be under the "control" of primarily TSO and myself. They felt that they had to censor themselves or face divine retribution from the evil site staff. If that's how you feel, then whatever. You're entitled to whatever you want to feel. However, in all seriousness, what in the world do you think is going to happen? I hope the lot of you understand that while I play the role of a tyrannical moderator, I'm actually pretty reasonable. I may say that I'm going to ban or probate you for seemingly no reason, but very seldom will I ever actually go through with it. And hell, on that rare chance, I might do it for 15 minutes for the fun of it, and usually, when you come back, you've got yourself a shiny new tag. Remember when I banned MJP and triangles after their wedding? When they came back, I tried to give them Idiot Deity status (and couldn't due to the 3 ID rule). Sometimes, I do things for fun, and whoever is unlucky enough to fall victim usually gets something out of it in the end. We don't just do things for the sake of doing them and leave you with a deal-with-it unless we have a pretty good reason for it.

I don't know where we went wrong, exactly, but this entire debacle became an opportunity for a number of individuals to run to their little #touhou-meido home and bash us behind our backs. Edible and Benny seem to be loved by the community, despite the fact that they tend to share some of the same overall feelings that we do, and I seem to be liked by some people, but TSO really just got consistently shit on by the community at large, mostly with claims of power-hunger over the IRC crisis.

I'll tell you right now. Sometimes, TSO pisses me the hell off. There are instances when I do find him obnoxiously whiny at times, incredibly opinionated, and overly critical about a lot of things, so much so that eventually, I just deleted him off my message clients and tried to find a way to ignore him on this very board. Yeah, it happens. However, the people who are claiming that TSO is sore about "not being in charge anymore" are so asinine that it's appalling. Say what you will about him, right or wrong, but he gives a damn about this community and wants to see it thrive by offering his own services for your convenience, be it the IRC server or the forum. If not for TSO's contribution to keeping MotK alive and wanting to turn MotK into what I have repeatedly called "the laughing stock of the Western Touhou fandom." Here's a quote from someone on this very board:

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There's a reason Shrinemaiden is the most hated western touhou community, and it's because we pick up all the kids that get shoved out of /jp/ and Poosh by the vitriol of their residents.
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I doubt places like /jp/ or Poosh will ever consider us more than a stain on the internet, but I think we can do more to appeal to users from other sources.

The entire board redesign back in April 2009 was made to fix this exact problem and send the forum into a whole new direction. We staff members got together and did this for your benefit. So don't you ever say that TSO is in this to feed his own ego, because at any point, he could have said "Well, the forum is pretty much crap now. What say we pack it up and head out?" No, he, along with the rest of the site staff, got together, and discussed what we needed to do to turn everything around. We racked our brains to come up with new ideas and new formats. Hell, nearly every board name and the very concept of CPMC came from me, and they were implemented not because we wanted to feel accomplished but because we wanted to provide an entertaining and thrilling environment for the community we care so much to enjoy.

If you think TSO is a bad leader, that's fine. If you think I'm a crappy mod, that's fine too. If you think Edible isn't actually as edible as he says he is and should be sued for false advertising, have your lawyer call ours. But don't once try to say that we are in this to appease ourselves and want total control over your experience. We have specifically asked for your feedback on multiple occasions, through personal talks or reports, and we listen to what you have to say. Sometimes, we mess up. We're human. Even so, we try and make it right.

Point #3: We are not trying to be Something Awful.

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<Mima> Not to mention TSO thinks sm.org is goddamn somethingawful or something

Something Awful is not a paradise. It has its fair share of problems, but everything that it does right, it does incredibly right. SA is a forum that a number of us have been a part of for years, and we have come to know how much of it is run. We're fans of some of the things they do. Their staff knows how to run a forum (watch Lowtax's talk at the University of Illinois if you think otherwise). However, while there are various parallels in the way certain things are handled, we have no intention of trying to become a clone board of SA.

We've taken certain ideas from SA, to be sure. My Probation avatar is a near-direct copy of theirs, which featured a caged cat, and our creation of bans and permabans were also taken from there (the original designs for those avatars, before I used Hong, were very similar to SA's as well). My Snowball Challenges are copies of their Moderator Challenges. Guess what? They've been well-received and entertaining to many. We're using a few of their avatars, and even "Deal with it" was straight from their forums. The entire concept of CPMC was taken from their creations of FYAD and YCS, off-shoots of certain main boards. If you recall, CPMC was an off-shoot of Everything Else that eventually evolved to become its own subforum. It was never meant to take away from the rest of the board in the way it does now. This stuff works.

If MotK was ever anything like Something Awful, you'd probably hate it. If you wanted a place like SA to post, you'd probably just post on SA. That's why, while we'll steal their ideas, we'll never steal their ideals. We have no desire to be like Something Awful.

Point #4: If you don't like something, speak up.

To the people who frequent #touhou-meido, this may seem familiar. We accept your feedback, and if you don't like us or something that we do, we will not rain fire upon you. The site staff is diverse enough that if something comes to our attention and a few of us agree, we will bring it up with the rest of the team. There is a strict communication policy now to prevent misunderstandings and problems from becoming rampant, and if you don't like what we're doing, tell us. This has pretty much always been an option, and with people like Kilga who fight so hard for neutrality, there is always someone to talk to who can convey whatever you need to whoever you need. Hell, if you don't like how I run things, then tell me exactly what I'm doing wrong. If enough people can get behind that, then I'll either change it or I'll resign from my post. Plain and simple. We want your stay at MotK to be an enjoyable one.

However, there is an exceptional problem with people's complacency. There are users who don't care one way or the other. They won't report problems. They won't address issues. They don't care unless they are taken out of their comfort zone. Suddenly, they're being intruded upon, because we staff members are mind-readers, and we are supposed to know how everyone feels all the time. That's plenty fair. We start making moves, and the people who, as far as we knew, had no issues with anything start telling everyone else that we're doing everything wrong and that we don't know what we're doing.

Speak the hell up. I've reiterated that we take your opinions into account. How about you start giving them?

Point #5: The move of the art threads to Community Fanworks was my idea.

A-F, Slaves, and Mode are talented artists. What if new users want to see, comment, and request artwork? Ijiyatsu's move was also one that made a lot of sense. Ijiyatsu was terrible Touhou fanfiction with terrible original characters. However, it is made great by the fact that they are being created as a game with community input. Yeah, it started in CPMC with that group as the set of characters, but again, CPMC should not be the community. It should be a board on MotK where people post sometimes. The move to Rika's Garage makes sense, because it's a fan game, and with the move, it can be seen and responded to by people who stumble upon the board. What if a really skilled danmakufu script writer wants to get involved? He shouldn't have to make 10 posts just to let us know. Again, we have other subforums. We're going to use them, whether you like it or not.

Point #6: I have a few more things to get off my chest.

TSO: You took this way IRC thing way too personally, but I don't blame you. Everyone jumped your shit and decided to turn this into an attack against you, because many didn't seem to understand anything about it, despite people like Benny trying to stand up for you. You've got a fair share of problems, and some of them are so frustrating that I want to punch you in the face. People can dislike you for those all they want, but you care about the community, even if they don't care about you. A number of us see that. Take a deep breath.

UsuallyDead: You seriously need to get the hell over it. I don't mean for you to be my little punching bag, but you continue to speak ill of the administration, because you can't seem to get past the fact that I found your thread stupid and did something with it. Should I have handled it differently? Absolutely. If I had to go back and handle it differently, would I? Without a doubt. Would I have still thought your thread was stupid? Abso-fucking-lutely. I expressed multiple times why, and you turned the issue into something else entirely and ragequit your janitor position. It seems like everyone who has a run-in with forum staff like that loves to run off screaming "they don't know how to run a forum!" You seem like you have the capacity to be a reasonable person. Take a deep breath.

UncertainKitten: I explained the problems I had with you in IRC the other day, but something else came to light that really encompasses all of it: UK, please, for the love of god, learn how to shut up.

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01:31:33  <UncertainKitten> Oh god
01:31:39  * UncertainKitten reads Feito's thread about touhou-meido
01:31:46  <UncertainKitten> Why the fuck can't she leave well enough alone?
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01:48:03  <UncertainKitten> You do realize how gender deviant the touhou community is in GENERAL, right?
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01:53:05  <UncertainKitten> But then you have to deal with how someone gets therapy for the damage society causes thanks to it? And then where's the "medical justification", already an iffy argument against others, for the needed physical changes?
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02:12:59  <UncertainKitten> But I don't think orientation OR gender identity are something people choose
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02:19:28  <UncertainKitten> People on skype bitching about it because they don't have the guts to actually say anything here
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02:33:33  <UncertainKitten> I find the fact that they are scared of a 20 year old woman on the internetz is hilarious
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03:04:22  <UncertainKitten> You have some...opinions about me you don't wish to discuss to my face?
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03:19:40  <UncertainKitten> Xan spoke of it. But the fact that Kanako did air his greivances about me on a public forum behind my back, instantly makes it a public issue
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03:26:12  <UncertainKitten> Which it isn't. So you are being an evasive coward
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03:30:03  <UncertainKitten> Ok, cite sources. Since when has everything ever called attention to myself?
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03:34:08  <UncertainKitten> (10:34:29 PM) ShiningDrake: ...Amazing. Trying to avoid drama by causing it due to not voicing problems when asked. Priceless.
03:34:08  <UncertainKitten> Basically ^-^;
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03:40:33  <Kanako> And this fucking argument about gender identities went on for like two hours
03:40:35  <UncertainKitten> Bullshit
03:40:38  <UncertainKitten> One hour
03:40:42  <UncertainKitten> And the argument itself was 15 minutes
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03:46:17  <UncertainKitten> Also, I want to know why you think I'm an attention whore, since that came up
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03:55:42  <UncertainKitten> Either we can resolve the supposed hatred, or I at least know my enemies
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04:01:58  <UncertainKitten> I'll be honest Kanako. You should have just said something in meido rather than bullshitting behind my back.
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04:22:05  <UncertainKitten> SERIOUSLY Letty?
04:22:11  * UncertainKitten facepalms
04:22:13  <UncertainKitten> You know what?
04:22:13  <UncertainKitten> Fuck it
04:22:27  <LettyWhiterock> What did I do?
04:22:49  <UncertainKitten> http://www.shrinemaiden.org/forum/index.php?topic=4796.msg235385#msg235385
04:22:52  <UncertainKitten> Yeah.
04:22:58  <LettyWhiterock> Oh ahahaha.
04:23:00  <LettyWhiterock> That was a joke.
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04:23:15  <LettyWhiterock> I posted it over 3 hours ago.
04:23:27  <UncertainKitten> Ok. So my timing was off. Still
04:23:29  <UncertainKitten> Why me!?
04:23:45  <LettyWhiterock> Would it have been okay if it been, say, Greyn instead?
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04:29:13  <UncertainKitten> And sometimes it's hard to believe Chaore. That people aren't out to get me. I like to think they aren't.

I like you, UK, I really do, but when you spend the greater part of three hours bitching about one thing after another, you start becoming obnoxious, and yeah, it sounds a lot like attention-whoring. You're not willing to let things go, and you want everyone to focus on you and the problem at hand until it's settled. Even Chaore had to tell you to settle down. Just chill out, and take a deep breath. You'll be fine.

To the rest of you: Behave yourselves. I'm tired of typing up long-winded diatribes, because I come off as a jerk, and despite my reputation as Letty Whiterock the Jerkface Mod, I love you guys and want to be accepted by all of you. If anyone is willing to listen and speak up, it's me. You know that. I, above all, want to see this community thrive, and I will do whatever it takes to help make that happen. If I have to step on a few toes, fine. If people hate me and leave, whatever. In the end, what I want to do for you guys is improve the place for you and for everyone else that will come here. In fact, that's what all of us on staff want. Don't fight us.

Peace.
« Last Edit: January 30, 2010, 09:37:10 AM by Advent Leticia »

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #1 on: January 30, 2010, 04:57:32 AM »
I've covered everything else in PM, including this. But I'll restate it anyway.

We get the idea. Was the public callout necessary? And if you can come up with a good reason for it, I'll accept it. As it stands you come off as an asshat.

EDIT: Fair enough, a reason does exist. I don't think it's a good one but I also have some idealist views about how people should handle things.
« Last Edit: January 30, 2010, 04:59:24 AM by Uncertain Mikeneko Rock »


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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2010, 04:58:05 AM »


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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #3 on: January 30, 2010, 05:00:02 AM »
Wait, so, that entire debate about giving some kind of "official status" to #t-m was moving servers? Huh.

I've been fairly absent around these parts for a couple months now, so there's a lot of stuff I've apparently missed. My own little dig at #sm with regards to one member there was more a joke than anything. I don't see anything wrong with either IRC, like I said.

With regards to CPMC, I really think it's a good idea to try and make at least one post outside of CPMC for every post you make in it. Click that "unread posts" link every once in a while. Take part in threads on other boards. There are a number of newbies bouncing around out there. They could use friends.

I admittedly have only started doing this a couple months ago, but I feel like I get more out of the site than I used to. Hell, when I first came here, I ignored CPMC for months. I was all about the Addicts.

Letty's right. TSO works pretty damn hard for this place. If I never said it before, it's much appreciated to have a Touhou community this comprehensive and entertaining.

I guess that's it.
« Last Edit: January 30, 2010, 05:01:48 AM by Tengukami »

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #4 on: January 30, 2010, 05:02:15 AM »
OK, speaking as a non-IRCer for the purposes of IRC is too tough to make work-looking and not a chat personality, question:

If every topic posted in CPMC should be constructive in some way, shape, or form, why is it that the topic is not moved to its appropriate subforum?  Doesn't that turn the spammy nature of CPMC upon its head as a general spawning pool of topics, both Touhou and non-Touhou?

I honestly don't have anything bad to say about Letty, UD, TSO, UK, QED, PDQ, or anyone else - we're all in this together and I for one would rather stay the hell out of the drama other than what I posted a sentence ago.  I don't see what the big shpiel is over IRC other than you guys want people to use it more, or maybe I'm completely wrong.

However, let me at least close with this: if mods and Powers That Be wish to make policy, why even attempt to explain it or win over our support?  MotK is not a democracy, it is run by those in charge, and we essentially have no rights.

Life is too short for internet drama.  If you guys want to make a change, do so, sticky the thread, warn offenders and then ban.  What are we going to do, vote you out?  Throw you out? 

Put up or shut up is what I want to say here.  Letty, if you want to make a change, use your powers to make that change.  If it's going to counter TSO or other admins, and you want to get their support, talk to them and see what you can do to make that support.  If they don't care, change it.  If they disapprove and you want to roll the dice, risk it and make the change. 

Don't post about what you dislike, do something about it.  If you can't do anything about it, take it to PMs with the individuals who are giving you grief and if it can't be resolved no matter what, count your blessings and move on.

There, that's my $0.02.  In the end all I want is a place to talk to people and kill time during the week; you guys all rock, I really don't have any problems with anyone here despite all the braggadocio and faux-hating I do. 

Can't we all just get along?

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #5 on: January 30, 2010, 05:05:07 AM »
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Can't we all just get along?

Everyone here will get along once the unreasonable backstabbing stops.

There is a very damn good reason why I rarely post in CPMC nowadays, it's because of the alienating factor. I'll be frank. CPMC makes me feel like shit because I feel really out of place. Many places outside of CPMC are great places to post in, as well, and have interesting content, too, not unlike CPMC. It seems that people here seem to love shenanigans and MOE MOE too much to give a shit about the other forums. UGW is great. Help Me Eirin! is great. The other Miscellaneous boards are good too. CPMC was cool before, but now it's degenerating into a massive circle-jerk.
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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #6 on: January 30, 2010, 05:05:16 AM »
First of all, as of now, all active art threads have been moved to Community Fanworks. Please post them there from now on, or I will move them myself. You can post in them and enjoy them just as if they were here. It's no different at all, aside from the fact that they're in the forum where they're really supposed to belong.

Second, I'd like to state that I agree with Letty on pretty much everything he just said. I think last night was the first time in the half of a year I've been a member here that I was so frustrated at CPMC and #meido that I got up and walked away from my computer just so I didn't have to read any of it anymore. I understand that CPMC is very tight-knit, and that I'm honored that I feel welcomed here by you guys despite the fact that I'm new here. However, I think it's absolutely wrong that TSO and Letty don't get the kind of respect you all give me, especially since I agree with both of them in this situation. Is it because I don't have a shiny blue or purple title that you guys accept me but seem to hate them? I'm seriously wondering here.

I love MotK, CPMC, and you guys as well, but this is getting to be really frustrating. And if anything I've said just now is grounds for you all to hate me as well, please tell me why you do, and if you don't have the testicular fortitude to do that, I hope you realize how petty you're being. I've got nothing against all of you, so I hope none of you hold anything against me. It just upsets me that you all accept me, but not two people who have poured their hearts into this community and want to make it a better place.
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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #7 on: January 30, 2010, 05:06:42 AM »
Wait, so, that entire debate about giving some kind of "official status" to #t-m was moving servers? Huh.

Essentially yes.  I did come off as sort of domineering and originally I did want staff to at least have hops in #meido but honestly all I really wanted was for PPIrC to get some love and make use of the things I built for the community.  The rest I was more than willing to concede on in interests of good will.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #8 on: January 30, 2010, 05:13:44 AM »
Wow, before this thread I was thinking "Letty is no nonsense what so ever" but now I see you as a way better person :), someone who actually has kind intent. I'm sorry if I seemed like an idiot when I was new to Shrine Maiden.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #9 on: January 30, 2010, 05:17:44 AM »
However, there is an exceptional problem with people's complacency. There are users who don't care one way or the other. They won't report problems. They won't address issues. They don't care unless they are taken out of their comfort zone. Suddenly, they're being intruded upon, because we staff members are mind-readers, and we are supposed to know how everyone feels all the time. That's plenty fair. We start making moves, and the people who, as far as we knew, had no issues with anything start telling everyone else that we're doing everything wrong and that we don't know what we're doing.

Emphasizing this, with some relevant discussion last night. Several people expressed distaste for how the occasional bouts of Anti-Semitism here go completely unchecked. I told them to make a topic about it in Letters to the Editor. One person responded with "I would, but :effort:" and no one else made any indication they even noticed my suggestion. This was :rolleyes: of the highest caliber. If something displeases you

SPEAK THE FUCK UP.

You might think you're being nice or some stupid shit by not bringing it up, but various residents in this community (myself included) have proven time and time again that silent aggravation left unchecked always explodes into something far worse than if you had said something from the beginning.

And if none of you deem trying to make this place better for you and for everyone worth the effort, then I have zero sympathy for whatever complaints you may have and will gladly spit in your face as I'm trodding on your toes.
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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #10 on: January 30, 2010, 05:22:36 AM »
well i didn't really pay attention to the IRC whatever thread, so i don't have much to say.

while i don't exactly like moving my art thread out of CPMC, there's no good reason for it to be here when it could fit just fine in Community Fanworks, so i don't have any complaints.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #11 on: January 30, 2010, 05:29:08 AM »
I never really visit IRC much, I could never access #touhou-meido (even after this forum pointed me to it, it seemed fun) and #danmakufu is obviously quiet but so is #shrinemaiden.

I've noticed a community here in CPMC too and I've been at these forums for under a month. But I've never seen any of this drama and backstabbing business, it's rather strange.  :-\

(Also I like Letty a lot more now for some reason.)

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #12 on: January 30, 2010, 05:30:00 AM »
To echo Kilga without the face-spitting: back-talking is not as productive as addressing problems directly, and tends to foment drama. I don't know if some people are intimidated about speaking up because they don't want to cause drama, but bitchgossiping (as I've seen in many a workplace) solves nothing and creates an atmosphere of distrust.

At the very least you can report posts. That's an anomymous form of speaking up. Or use PM. I don't think any mod would fault anyone for either of those.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #13 on: January 30, 2010, 06:00:28 AM »
To the rest of you: Behave yourselves. I'm tired of typing up long-winded diatribes, because I come off as a jerk, and despite my reputation as Letty Whiterock the Jerkface Mod, I love you guys and want to be accepted by all of you. If anyone is willing to listen and speak up, it's me. You know that. I, above all, want to see this community thrive, and I will do whatever it takes to help make that happen. If I have to step on a few toes, fine. If people hate me and leave, whatever. In the end, what I want to do for you guys is improve the place for you and for everyone else that will come here. In fact, that's what all of us on staff want. Don't fight us.

This is an important thing for me to hear.

Letty, I'm going be straight with you, since that's what you want. You seldom come off as friendly when I see you about. Most often, you are either upset about something, complaining about something, or being a cynic in general. I suppose this is an affected persona. But when you don't drop it, what is one supposed think about the person behind it? Simply put, you come off as not liking many of us, and taking joy in being able to censure, ban, and so forth.

With this in mind, I find it hard to trust you as a moderator. It's hard for me to think you are trying to be fair, considerate, or even-handed; rather than simply enacting whatever whims you have because you don't like CPMC. I've had to have Tso reassure me in the past that you aren't just doing whatever you feel like, and that there is discussion and such.

As I've said, part of this is my fault. I don't follow you around and try to pick apart what is affectation and what isn't. But on the other hand, you've not really acted in a manner that encourages me to do anything other than try to stay out of your way.

You wonder why people talk about the mods, and don't seem to include Benny or Kilga. I think this is why. Benny's a pretty nice guy, and Kilga drops his jerkface facade rather easily. But you never seem to, for more than a moment. You say you want to be friends with us. I don't think anyone would mind that. But in order to do that, you have to be friendly. Not only does it drive people to misinterpret and shy away from you, it makes the community moderation seem arbitrary and driven more by pathos than reason. This only feeds into those misconceptions that crept up, and makes them seem more justified. It's made me reluctant to speak up about things in the past, because you come off as the sort of person who holds grudges. Before today, I wouldn't have said anything at all for exactly that reason.

This is why it's important to me you said that up there. It help affirm that my perception is wrong. Please continue to do that.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #14 on: January 30, 2010, 06:15:04 AM »
I appreciate that, Purvis. I do.

It may come as a surprise, but I'm often nice to the point of self-sacrifice. I simply tend to put on the Letty mask more, because I find it more fun. I sometimes forget that people aren't always keen on my sense of humor. I apologize for this.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #15 on: January 30, 2010, 06:26:08 AM »
Miscommunication: the silent destroyer :V

Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #16 on: January 30, 2010, 06:28:15 AM »
I pretty much have to agree with Purv. There's been lots of times where Letty or some other mod has just come off as flat-out, unnecessarily rude, seemingly because they could. I'm new to CMPC in general (I really only came here for the Touhou game discussion and thought I might as well drop by this forum), so maybe it's just me not knowing the community well enough to know who's joking and who's not, so if that's the case, please do let me know. :(


Oh, that's another thing that bothers me about CPMC. Everyone always talks about how tightly-knit the forum is, how everyone's a great family and they all know each other and who's doing what with their lives and yadda yadda yadda.
Sometimes I feel CMPC is too tightly-knit. It's honestly just intimidating sometimes. Out of all the forums (and spam sections) I've visited, I've never felt...well, I don't want to say "scared," but...well, it's more like "awkward." I feel like I'm intruding on this forum whenever I browse it. Like Letty said in the OP, CMPC is a clique, and one I'm almost afraid to try to break through for fear of retribution or something.

When I type it out like this, I feel kind of silly, but it's just an issue that's been bothering me for a while. It just feels like CMPC has reached its maximum capacity and anyone who wants to join, well that's just too bad for them. :c

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #17 on: January 30, 2010, 06:31:16 AM »
I pretty much have to agree with Purv. There's been lots of times where Letty or some other mod has just come off as flat-out, unnecessarily rude, seemingly because they could. I'm new to CMPC in general (I really only came here for the Touhou game discussion and thought I might as well drop by this forum), so maybe it's just me not knowing the community well enough to know who's joking and who's not, so if that's the case, please do let me know. :(

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #18 on: January 30, 2010, 06:43:39 AM »
This is wonderful, wonderful, wonderful.  I have never seen a post address so many issues so thoroughly and well at once.

Letty: This is a very wonderful post and I am very happy to see something like this, especially from you, because it seriously does address any and every sort of an issue I have had in a long while.  Public callouts were a litttttle irrelevant but hey this is just a random post that doesn't necessarily reflect the views of shrinemaiden.org moderators, so I can deal with that.  I'm going to entirely avoid something like that though, there's a reason I'm avoiding #meido right now, and I hate feeling angry at people so I'm trying to minimize that.

On top of what Letty said here, I want to emphasize one thing that I thought people here truly did understand, but apparently that wasn't the case: When you see somebody (and by somebody I mean (basically) anybody) typing a line on irc, making a forum post, writing up a thread because they are an admin and are trying to maintain their website, are pming you things that irritate you, or anything else, that person is a human being.  I am not telling you to get along with everybody unconditionally.  There are people I will forever not get along with, and I know this is pretty much the case for everybody.  But that person is a human being.  I saw people treating others not as human beings yesterday and I didn't expect to ever see this from this community (you guys did a really good job building up your masks) and I don't ever want to see it again.

I'm still really mad at people.  What I saw on IRC last night is simply not forgivable and I do not ever want to see someone (in this case, Chaore) treated so poorly.  He is a human being sitting behind a monitor and I am furious at how he was treated, and I am not in #meido right now because I do not want to look at some of you right now because I am mad at you.  This will pass and I will love you all again sometime or another but what I saw last night, and yesterday as a whole is not something I will easily forgive.  Perhaps I'm just mad at myself because when you all (all is used very loosely here) wore your masks of liking everybody and it turns out there were people you felt the desire to tell to their face, many of you at once, that you hated them, I didn't realize you were all wearing masks.  You fooled me.  Good job!

I do get angry easily, sometimes.  I know this is a problem and I know when I was talking on #meido in the morning I was getting angry and I was being offensive to Mima and UD and probably others too.  I don't like this and I was fuming all day (which is a bad thing because that Thursday I was busy from straight 11AM to 9PM).  And you know what made me mad?  I had spend a good long while talking about how #meido is very close, and that sort of closeness won't come in #sm.  And then you all start telling each other how much you hate each other and I felt like I had been lying all day and what I had thought was true of so many of you wasn't true.

But at the same time, later that day I was asked if "I ever feel like I'd like to just take a few people from a community, lift them up, and go somewhere else."  I responded by saying "Yes, I've felt that before, but this isn't that sort of a time.  Even after tonight, I still want everybody in #meido to be there."  You all are awesome and I am still mad at a bunch of you and probably won't be around for a few more days because I can't read lines from you without getting irritated but I will be back sometime.

Please don't ever forget that other users are human beings again.  And thank you so much, Letty, for posting this, because I am too angry at everybody to possibly have any sort of composure to write a post like yours.

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« Reply #19 on: January 30, 2010, 06:51:57 AM »
I honestly am not sure what to reply to this. I'm not one to care enough about any of these arguments to do anything about anything. It might just be because I'm far too lax, but whatever. Even if it sounds really lazy, just throwing everything you said into a ditto, I just have to say that I pretty much agree with everything you said.

Even just demonstrated by these few replies, you've worked your way, at least a bit, into a few people. I've said before that I totally respect your decisions and know that you guys are trying your hardest to make this place better, and I stand by it.

Good job.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #20 on: January 30, 2010, 06:55:56 AM »
Sometimes I feel CMPC is too tightly-knit. It's honestly just intimidating sometimes. Out of all the forums (and spam sections) I've visited, I've never felt...well, I don't want to say "scared," but...well, it's more like "awkward." I feel like I'm intruding on this forum whenever I browse it. Like Letty said in the OP, CMPC is a clique, and one I'm almost afraid to try to break through for fear of retribution or something.
I'm new to these forums in general, but uh, I've felt the same way, actually. I've also been worried that by posting in CPMC I'm being "that guy" and coming off like I'm trying to force myself into the community or something, which I certainly don't want to do. I don't even feel right referencing people by name here because I'm not part of the clique and I don't know them. Plus I don't get responses to half of my posts here so I don't even know if I'm being a really irritating jerk who isn't welcome or something.
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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #21 on: January 30, 2010, 06:59:14 AM »
Oh hi, look, I don't really care initially I think you guys do what you have to do to run the forum but damn, now you done pouring oil into fire now.

enjoy your forest fires.

beejeezus guys, can't you not flog the dead horse?

Thing is, it does bring awareness, but not like that is gonna change a thing ain't it.?
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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #22 on: January 30, 2010, 07:01:30 AM »
Thing is, it does bring awareness, but not like that is gonna change a thing ain't it.?

Not with that mindset, it won't.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #23 on: January 30, 2010, 07:05:08 AM »
I appreciate that, Purvis. I do.

It may come as a surprise, but I'm often nice to the point of self-sacrifice. I simply tend to put on the Letty mask more, because I find it more fun. I sometimes forget that people aren't always keen on my sense of humor. I apologize for this.

It's not so much not being keen on the humor; I sometimes come down with the haterade myself. Just that when it keeps happening, and makes up the bulk of what one sees, one starts to wonder if it's an act, or reflective of actual feelings that are just a little exaggerated.

To be fair, though. Edible is also really bad about this. Just that you are a more visible face.

I pretty much have to agree with Purv. There's been lots of times where Letty or some other mod has just come off as flat-out, unnecessarily rude, seemingly because they could. I'm new to CMPC in general (I really only came here for the Touhou game discussion and thought I might as well drop by this forum), so maybe it's just me not knowing the community well enough to know who's joking and who's not, so if that's the case, please do let me know. :(


Oh, that's another thing that bothers me about CPMC. Everyone always talks about how tightly-knit the forum is, how everyone's a great family and they all know each other and who's doing what with their lives and yadda yadda yadda.
Sometimes I feel CMPC is too tightly-knit. It's honestly just intimidating sometimes. Out of all the forums (and spam sections) I've visited, I've never felt...well, I don't want to say "scared," but...well, it's more like "awkward." I feel like I'm intruding on this forum whenever I browse it. Like Letty said in the OP, CMPC is a clique, and one I'm almost afraid to try to break through for fear of retribution or something.

When I type it out like this, I feel kind of silly, but it's just an issue that's been bothering me for a while. It just feels like CMPC has reached its maximum capacity and anyone who wants to join, well that's just too bad for them. :c

I don't think it's an issue of capacity. I don't think CPMC really actively excludes anyone who isn't acting like Myon or Seniwac (that is, trollin' it up.). It's just that you're overlooked if you don't make a name for yourself. I've got my RP stuff and once in a blue moon amusing quips. Slaves, AF, Erebus, Mode, and recently Gappy have their arts. Others are lunatic players. So on. I really didn't start to blend in here until I did that one thread back in June where I was pretending to be an old southern pedophile with a dozen and one stories. I managed to luck out and get IM, though, which is really what got me a name here at all. That and a thousand and one posts.

So there are two ways to really make yourself known here. One is you post a lot, so that people see you. Interact and have fun. It'll take a couple weeks, but you'll become a maff class spiffy personality just by being visible and bullshittin' with people. The other way is to find some kind of niche. We like art guys. We like effort posters, and so on. Either way, that's more or less how internettin' in general works. Just if you take the first route, you can't expect all your posts to be winners. Don't worry, happens to all of us.

I'm new to these forums in general, but uh, I've felt the same way, actually. I've also been worried that by posting in CPMC I'm being "that guy" and coming off like I'm trying to force myself into the community or something, which I certainly don't want to do. I don't even feel right referencing people by name here because I'm not part of the clique and I don't know them.

You're always going to be "that guy" when you're new to just about any community. Don't worry about it, no one's really excluding you or judging you all that much. We're just getting used to you.

For what it's worth, I thnk your frood has it share of hoop =]

Thing is, it does bring awareness, but not like that is gonna change a thing ain't it.?

Changed my view of Letty for the better, a little bit.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #24 on: January 30, 2010, 07:06:28 AM »
Conflict is a natural constant. The problem here is that the shadow of the issue is larger than what it really is.

To be informed will allow those to make a better decision, one that they knowingly can choose out of their free will.

I should assume that my short time in CPMC would mean that I shouldn't be affected by this, but my inability to forget and ignore still hurts me.

To be honest, I still love the moderators (not in that way and I only annoy Edible because he's funny) and MotK and I don't take MotK for granted; it's a lovely place even if the naysayers are right outside the front door.

Maybe I just sound a bit too optimistic, but better that than to be immutable, correct?
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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #25 on: January 30, 2010, 07:07:11 AM »
So we should just sit around and let the forest burn down instead?

The entire idea here is that people are supposed to speak up when they have problems, and they weren't aware of this or something or it wasn't emphasized enough and Letty and so on are trying to do a wonderful job to make it so this isn't the case anymore.

This is hardly a dead horse, by the way, drama from the day before is hardly "dead".

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« Reply #26 on: January 30, 2010, 07:19:54 AM »
Plus I don't get responses to half of my posts here so I don't even know if I'm being a really irritating jerk who isn't welcome or something.
I'm usually too busy staring at your sig picture and thinking about Rhythm Tengoku.

Oh hi, look, I don't really care initially I think you guys do what you have to do to run the forum but damn, now you done pouring oil into fire now.

enjoy your forest fires.

beejeezus guys, can't you not flog the dead horse?

Thing is, it does bring awareness, but not like that is gonna change a thing ain't it.?
Are you drunk? I feel like this wasn't a complete thought.

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #27 on: January 30, 2010, 07:25:39 AM »
Oh hi, look, I don't really care initially I think you guys do what you have to do to run the forum but damn, now you done pouring oil into fire now.

enjoy your forest fires.

No, this isn't fueling the flame. This is an attempt to try and resolve the issue that has been unnecessarily started and brought up. I know my voice means little here, but I at least want to try and be able to provide a voice of reason in order to clear things up. The administration are trying their best to try and resolve issues. If anything, it's the populace themselves that are causing chaos. We are trying to come to a peaceful resolution.

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Thing is, it does bring awareness, but not like that is gonna change a thing ain't it.?

What the fuck is this thread, then?

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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #28 on: January 30, 2010, 07:31:51 AM »
...Drake pretty much summed up what I was going to say far better than I could ever possibly hope to do. I mean, I feel pretty worthless for just doing nothing more than merely dittoing a ditto, which in and of itself is some pretty ludicrous laziness (possibly of the highest caliber), but when someone pretty much says what you wanted to say better than you can word it out, then what can ya do?

Oh hi, look, I don't really care initially I think you guys do what you have to do to run the forum but damn, now you done pouring oil into fire now.

enjoy your forest fires.

I fail to see how this is 'pouring oil into the fire', or what 'forest fires' will ensue for that matter, but what do I know?

What the fuck is this thread, then?

A waste of everyone's time, apparently.
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Re: Hey, everybody! It's your pal Letty here to yell at the lot of you!
« Reply #29 on: January 30, 2010, 07:35:06 AM »
All I am saying is, as it is, there is some leeway for understanding, bringing it the table like this seem to have caused a significant situation of conflict thus far.

I am not exactly opposing it of course, in fact I applaud your actions now that the issue has become like this.
I suppose without conflicts in opinion you cannot reach a consensus or solution.


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would be better if it was, because someone has to bring it up over and over again so yeah. sigh~

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So we should just sit around and let the forest burn down instead?
it is a comfort zone thing, I suppose someone needs to wake everyone up with a topic like this, seeing as milder methods if any hasn't worked.

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