This thread started out as halloween then BDSM then gendertalk then states

[Kuma]

I have fantasised about rapeing someone, but I'd never actulay do it. in public.

[Nobu]

Oh how I would love to get in on this dom/sub thing.  If only I weren't so socially crippled.  I hate these irrational anxieties of mine. 

Dom/sub isn't something you just "get in on". It's an important decision to be made after lengthy consideration with a person you love very much. I've been doing introspection ever since the idea first popped up in this topic and I have yet to find circumstances under which I'm sure I'd go through with either side (most likely dom, my temper is not one for sub).

Well, BDSM play can be practiced outside of the confines of a monogamous loving relationship. You can just have affection and be attracted to your dom/sub at the time, or even just have a friendship with someone while having a D/S relationship on the side. The lengthy consideration is about right though; what's of prime importance is the communication and accommodation of one another's needs and wants in a safe and consensual manner.

I'd rather be dom'd than be a dom myself. It's weird.
This is coming from someone who's fantasized about being raped. I shit you not.

Okay, this statement made me lol hard. Rape fantasy is actually pretty common.


If you think about it, fantasizing means you want it to happen, which makes it technically not rape. Instead of thinking of it as 'Do I want to get raped?' think about what elements of the 'rape fantasy' that excite you. Betcha it's not the "forced to do something with someone you absolutely do not want to do anything with or random complete stranger"  part.

[Jana]

I have fantasised about rapeing someone, but I'd never actulay do it. in public.

The opposite? I once had a dream in which I raped someone I really hated... But I felt really shitty about it when I woke up.

[Nobu]

Also, I SWEAR to god. It's like

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[Kilgamayan]

If that pisses you off, be less interesting!

[Easy Mode]

violent consensual sex.

Then that is what I want.

[Dragoshi]

Also, I SWEAR to god. It's like

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TYPE FASTER, POKEY.

But, uh. Seriously though. I'm glad I usually don't have to deal with that. That and I never really have anything of actual value to say, so. :x

violent consensual sex.

Then that is what I want.

Sounds like it could be a bit of fun. Sure, it'd be kind of risky, but. What's life without its risks? :V

[Nobu]

If that pisses you off, be less interesting!

Kk. Hay guys, what are you all doing for Halloween?

[dustyjo]

violent consensual sex.

Hot.

I have fantasised about rapeing someone, but I'd never actulay do it. in public.

The opposite? I once had a dream in which I raped someone I really hated... But I felt really shitty about it when I woke up.

I have too, except the person was fictional and male.

it was more like torture actually (I felt like hurting something that day)

[Greyn]

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Augh...

Bearing out parts of my inner soul will have to wait.....

I have a fire to walk into....

[Tengukami]

violent consensual sex.

Then that is what I want.

If you do find someone you can trust enough to not only tell that to, but also trust enough to be able to participate in it with, then you should hint at the subject first - drop suggestions here and there and see how they respond. I've heard plenty of subs complain that this is the most difficult part of looking for a potential dom - putting the feelers out to see who might respond. Should that partner respond positively to the hints, divulge more, and then you and that person need to have a really long and thorough discussion about how you feel, what you want, what's good and what's off limits. To avoid any confusion whatsoever, also include a "safe word" - something you can easily remember in the heat of the moment to tell your partner that now things have gone too far.

Best of luck to you - not every guy is cut out for it.

[Jana]

I have fantasised about rapeing someone, but I'd never actulay do it. in public.

The opposite? I once had a dream in which I raped someone I really hated... But I felt really shitty about it when I woke up.

I have too, except the person was fictional and male.

it was more like torture actually (I felt like hurting something that day)

...I wish I could say the same... I just hated this one girl, and then dreamed that... I tried to be less biased in my views on her from then on.

[Gpop]

Oh are we in rape discussion now?

IRL, I hate rape. I don't find it very attractive. And I don't like the thought of rape on real women.

In H though, rape is really hot. That's how I like it. Their face is so cute when raped.

[Nobu]

...I wish I could say the same... I just hated this one girl, and then dreamed that... I tried to be less biased in my views on her from then on.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's just like if you had a dream of kicking someone's ass or murdering someone, it doesn't mean you'd ever come close to doing it in real life.

Oh are we in rape discussion now?

IRL, I hate rape. I don't find it very attractive. And I don't like the thought of rape on real women.

In H though, rape is really hot. That's how I like it. Their face is so cute when raped.

The scenario of 'being forced against your will/raped and then driven to the point where you're in ecstasy and begging for more' is one of my favorites.

[Easy Mode]

In H, I like the "rapans til you liek it" scenarios. <3

[Nobu]

In H, I like the "rapans til you liek it" scenarios. <3

This. I use too many words, heh.

[Moerin]

Yeah... Whilst I do like the idea of aggressive consensual sex, rape... Is not one of my fantasies.

Actually, in all honesty the idea of rape in any context just disturbs me.  Then again, every depiction of rape I've seen in media has been... Not pretty, to say the least.  Mind you, I'm not into hentai/porn, and the only manga I read that has graphic sex in it is Berserk, so... Yeah.  Maybe that explains to my thoughts on the subject.

[Dragoshi]

In H, I like the "rapans til you liek it" scenarios. <3

This. I use too many words, heh.

Ah, no problem. we all have our moments in which we use too many words.

Though in all honesty I think use too few words.

[Menorah Jams, Pham]

IDK.  Rape fantasy is something that gets close to beyond the pale for me.  I seriously cannot fathom anyone ever getting any enjoyment out of being forced into sex against their will.  :-/ 

Violent sex with a consensual overtone in the whole "Hey, here's my fantasy" shpiel but I was raised on "no means no." 

To each his own... but the idea really makes me angry and gets my stomach churning.  D:

I've seen that one ep of The Sopranos way too many times to abide by rape as anything other than a brutal crime against all women.

[Jana]

I don't really like rape in any context, even in H. Sure, it an be hot when well done and such, but it's not much of a turn-on to me.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's just like if you had a dream of kicking someone's ass or murdering someone, it doesn't mean you'd ever come close to doing it in real life.

True, true... It was still quite a shocker. My death dreams involved me dying, so to be on the opposite end of that scenario was an odd sort of surprise.

[Easy Mode]

oh hi guise i am just a pervert lol


Kinda just had a break down about it earlier. e we

[Mobius]

I need to find a transcript of Eddie Izzard's "Penis Ambivalence" joke and post it in this thread. I love that guy.

[dustyjo]

oh hi guise i am just a pervert lol


Kinda just had a break down about it earlier. e we

Nothing wrong with that :V

[Nobu]

oh hi guise i am just a pervert lol

Welcome to the party! 

[Jana]

I need to find a transcript of Eddie Izzard's "Penis Ambivalence" joke and post it in this thread. I love that guy.

I'm going to a show of his in January. Shit's gonna be so cash.

oh hi guise i am just a pervert lol

Welcome to the party! 

Are we a club now? Hooray!

[Mobius]

I need to find a transcript of Eddie Izzard's "Penis Ambivalence" joke and post it in this thread. I love that guy.

I'm going to a show of his in January. Shit's gonna be so cash.

Lucky. He's not coming here.

[Tengukami]

IDK.  Rape fantasy is something that gets close to beyond the pale for me.  I seriously cannot fathom anyone ever getting any enjoyment out of being forced into sex against their will.  :-/ 

Violent sex with a consensual overtone in the whole "Hey, here's my fantasy" shpiel but I was raised on "no means no." 

To each his own... but the idea really makes me angry and gets my stomach churning.  D:

I've seen that one ep of The Sopranos way too many times to abide by rape as anything other than a brutal crime against all women.

There's an important to distinction that needs to be made here - of the women I know who have rape fantasies, none of them actually want to be raped. And it's possible to roleplay said fantasy while fully believing that rape is a horrible crime.

The difference between rape and rape fantasy is vast. In rape fantasy, the "victim" sets the boundaries of what can and cannot happen. She can say the safe word at any time and her "attacker" will back off. It's a form of total surrender and submission to the dom, where you use the verbal and physical language of resistance. That's it.

Actual real rape, on the other hand, is none of these things.

[Mobius]

My childhood friend was gang raped when she was 12. It haunts ME, and I wasn't even there. So yeah, rape's not my thing, but I know the difference between reality and fantasy.

[Dizzy H. "Muffin" Muffin]

Yeah, I think that's where a lot of the shit comes from -- when people can't tell the difference between fantasy and reality in others.

[Easy Mode]

k no more rape talk what are your thoughts on yaoi etc