This thread started out as halloween then BDSM then gendertalk then states

[Nobu]

Like I said. I'm curious about it. I mean, I prolly' won't practice it, but. Eh. I wouldn't mind learning more about it for the hell of it. :x

BDSM is more about being open-minded and accepting of each other's physical/sexual desires, and being able to communicate such, than just simply domming or subbing. For books, I reccommend SM 101, or The Bottoming Book. Ethical Slut is good too, but that's polyamory.

[UncertainJakutten]

Like I said. I'm curious about it. I mean, I prolly' won't practice it, but. Eh. I wouldn't mind learning more about it for the hell of it. :x

BDSM is more about being open-minded and accepting of each other's physical/sexual desires, and being able to communicate such, than just simply domming or subbing. For books, I reccommend SM 101, or The Bottoming Book. Ethical Slut is good too, but that's polyamory.

I should consider some of these titles myself. And really, Nobu does get it.

[Dragoshi]

Like I said. I'm curious about it. I mean, I prolly' won't practice it, but. Eh. I wouldn't mind learning more about it for the hell of it. :x

BDSM is more about being open-minded and accepting of each other's physical/sexual desires, and being able to communicate such, than just simply domming or subbing. For books, I reccommend SM 101, or The Bottoming Book. Ethical Slut is good too, but that's polyamory.

Alright then. Thanks for your assistance on that matter, Nobu. I'll be sure to check those out ten thousand years from now. At the latest.

[Menorah Jams, Pham]

Nobu and UK, you guys keep talking and see what happens.  Meanwhile I'm going to hide my pants, I think I'm gonna be done with them for the night.   :V

[Nobu]

There's also a multitude of good online resources if you do some digging and don't feel like getting anything physical. UK, I'm sure you'll be able to attain it sooner or later, just keep at it.


MJP, I love your avatar by the way.

[Nietz]

What are the qualities of a good dom?

Nietz answer this.

Why me?
Anyway, I believe that for every kind of sub there's a right kind of dom, and vice-versa.
I'm not really into traditional SM stuff (though since seeing Secretary a while back, I started to think I could get a little), so I think a good dom is actually someone I'd want to tell me what to do and, at some level, always enjoy obeying them. I guess it comes from the immature part of me.    Of course I'd have to be someone I respect in the first place, or else he/she would just look like an annoying asshole.

But basically, like Nobu said:

Agreed. Trusting someone enough to surrender yourself completely to them is a blissful experience.

Yes, I believe that's the basic feeling of it for everyone (who is submissive that is).

[triangles]

BDSM is more about being open-minded and accepting of each other's physical/sexual desires, and being able to communicate such, than just simply domming or subbing.

So, isn't that basically a well-functioning relationship?

[Menorah Jams, Pham]

I would like to state that I am basically a plain vanilla kinda guy when it comes to the -

who are you and what are you doing in my house?

But seriously folks, I don't begrudge stuff like this, but am I a bastard if I find dom/sub and all permutations of it completely nuts?  ;-; 

I'm not trying to be a jerk.  I just don't see how anyone could enjoy it.  I'm as intimate physically as the next bro dawg BETA PHI BETA PHI WE'RE A BUNCH OF BADASS GUYS brother but it's just not my slice of pie, cup o' tea, boat floated. 

More power to you but UK I thought you were like 16, you should not be doing this, you should be saving yourself for the Lord 

[UncertainJakutten]

More power to you but UK I thought you were like 16, you should not be doing this, you should be saving yourself for the Lord

Are you serious? I'm 19 years old, first of all. And second of all...I have my own thoughts on what God wants from me.

I really looked like I was 16 at the con?

[Menorah Jams, Pham]

Are you serious? I'm 19 years old, first of all. And second of all...I have my own thoughts on what God wants from me.

I really looked like I was 16 at the con?

Okay, whew, I am less worried then. 

God wants only one thing from you and that is to REPENT YE SINNER

jklol

no srsly you are going to hell you fornicator

[Nietz]

But seriously folks, I don't begrudge stuff like this, but am I a bastard if I find dom/sub and all permutations of it completely nuts?  ;-; 

Heh, I believe everyone has a little of both, but I understand if you're talking about the extreme cases.

you should be saving yourself for the Lord 

YES UK, SUBMIT YOURSELF TO THE LORD, THE BIGGEST DOM OF ALL TIME!

[UncertainJakutten]

Are you serious? I'm 19 years old, first of all. And second of all...I have my own thoughts on what God wants from me.

I really looked like I was 16 at the con?

Okay, whew, I am less worried then. 

God wants only one thing from you and that is to REPENT YE SINNER

jklol

no srsly you are going to hell you fornicator

You evaded the question.

Further, I'm still technically a virgin. So there.

Also, Paul supports dom/sub relationships as long as it's a dominant man and a submissive woman.

YES UK, SUBMIT YOURSELF TO THE LORD, THE BIGGEST DOM OF ALL TIME!

But he doesn't do ****** to me with ******* in my ****** when I ******

[Jana]

Ahn... I missed quite a bit in a few hours. Now I have to backtrack and see what Mode and I were talking about...

BDSM... Um, I dunno about it. I mean, I like being the dominant role in bed, but to cause pain... I simply cannot equate pain with pleasure, and I like taking the lead in bed because I see my goal as giving my partner pleasure. If I were ever with someone who really wanted me to hurt them, I'm not sure how I would react in that situation...

I'm pretty sure I'd make a shitty receiver too. I have a high pain tolerance, but I'm more likely to fight back (even if it's not really a fight in the first place, that's just how I perceive pain).

Cut by UK: These conversations always make me feel obligated to mention my technical virginity too. So there it is.

[dustyjo]

I wish to know about these uses :V

[UncertainJakutten]

Ahn... I missed quite a bit in a few hours. Now I have to backtrack and see what Mode and I were talking about...

BDSM... Um, I dunno about it. I mean, I like being the dominant role in bed, but to cause pain... I simply cannot equate pain with pleasure, and I like taking the lead in bed because I see my goal as giving my partner pleasure. If I were ever with someone who really wanted me to hurt them, I'm not sure how I would react in that situation...

I'm pretty sure I'd make a shitty receiver too. I have a high pain tolerance, but I'm more likely to fight back (even if it's not really a fight in the first place, that's just how I perceive pain).

Cut by UK: These conversations always make me feel obligated to mention my technical virginity too. So there it is.

Well, it's not for everyone. Some people just have their pain and pleasure receptors crossed a bit .

[Nietz]

But he doesn't do ****** to me with ******* in my ****** when I ******

Of course he's not going to do anything you want.It's called deprivation play. God is the best at it.

[Dizzy H. "Muffin" Muffin]

Hot.

I think I'm ... switch-curious. And on the gender side of the equation: probably "indiscriminate."

[Nachtwanderlied]

PAIN AND PLEASURE IS LIKE A WHEEL MAN


IT TURNS INTO THE OTHER WHEN SPUN AROUND ENOUGH






who's paul

[Jana]

Well, it's not for everyone. Some people just have their pain and pleasure receptors crossed a bit .

I suppose that's true. Pain is something I've always learned to avoid, and even though I've built up a higher tolerance, I can't change that perception...

[Bias Bus]

But he doesn't do ****** to me with ******* in my ****** when I ******

I know who will though

/lecherous post

(Also: FUCKDAMN SHITCUNT slow down folks)

[Slaves]

this thread

and that's all i have to say about that

[Greyn]

Oh? What would you propose?

How about an iron studded paddle + your rear. 

[Menorah Jams, Pham]

You evaded the question.

Further, I'm still technically a virgin. So there.

Also, Paul supports dom/sub relationships as long as it's a dominant man and a submissive woman.

Yeah, well Mike supports dom/sub relationships as long as it's a dominant woman and an even more submissive woman.  Thus it is awesome.

Actually, Judaism is pretty dang sexually liberal.  Paul?  Paul who?  All I know is that there's a bunch of pages of Talmudic arguments (the way it works is that there's the original Talmud, surrounded by a rabbi's commentary, surrounded by another rabbi's commentary on the commentary, etc.) that require a husband to satisfy his wife depending on his profession.  Sailors must elicit one climax every six months, water merchants every three months, artisans who deal with animals once every month, other artisans biweekly.  Not sure.  I should do some research on this next time I'm in temple (which will probably be when someone dies). 

As to the age question, I don't recall seeing you, but that's not a slight on you, just on my shitty memory.  But that photo of you, you look young.  But then again I'm old and everyone looks young to me.  ;_;

[UncertainJakutten]

PAIN AND PLEASURE IS LIKE A WHEEL MAN


IT TURNS INTO THE OTHER WHEN SPUN AROUND ENOUGH






who's paul

biblical sexist doucheface that completely fucked with Jesus' teachings but is taken as canon anyway.

Oh? What would you propose?

How about an iron studded paddle + your rear. 

A little plain, but if you so desire~

As to the age question, I don't recall seeing you, but that's not a slight on you, just on my shitty memory.  But that photo of you, you look young.  But then again I'm old and everyone looks young to me.  ;_;

I see. And seriously, if I had been 16 what would you have said?

[Menorah Jams, Pham]

I see. And seriously, if I had been 16 what would you have said?

"Is this a Pokeymans convention?  How cute!  My little cousin loves Japanimation.  Which one are you?  Swordmon?"

[Dizzy H. "Muffin" Muffin]

That seems to be where the "Uncertain" in "UncertainKitten" comes from.

[Nobu]

So, isn't that basically a well-functioning relationship?

Essentially, just BDSM is for people less vanilla about it, or at least are able to share and express their less mainstream fetishes or practices.

But seriously folks, I don't begrudge stuff like this, but am I a bastard if I find dom/sub and all permutations of it completely nuts?  ;-; 

I'm not trying to be a jerk.  I just don't see how anyone could enjoy it.  I'm as intimate physically as the next bro dawg BETA PHI BETA PHI WE'RE A BUNCH OF BADASS GUYS brother but it's just not my slice of pie, cup o' tea, boat floated. 

Nah, you're not a bastard. To each their own, y'know? Sometimes some things don't need an explanation on WHY you like it, you just do. The prime tenants of BDSM are Safe, Sane, and Consensual, because it's an exploration of each other's inner sexual desires, not the ability for someone to simply cause pain and anguish. In a good D/S relationship, it's actually the Dom that has the hard job; balancing his desires and maximizing pleasure for his sub, keeping them safe during a session, and not crossing any boundaries. The sub, in return needs to be able to communicate clearly and effectively, and know their boundaries.

Some people just don't get off on the feeling of holding power over someone or having someone submit to them, and some people don't get off on submitting to others, being restrained or feeling overpowered. There are so many different sub/dom styles so i'm not going to get into it.

But yeah. TL;DR version: You're not weird, you don't have to tend toward either dom or sub. Just tolerate us and keep and open mind. Also, you can still learn something from those books for vanilla relationships.

[Nobu]

Also, evidence of being tl;dr.. "Warning --  while you were replying 15 replies have been posted."

[Nachtwanderlied]

UK looked at least 23 to me

but meh

[UncertainJakutten]

I see. And seriously, if I had been 16 what would you have said?

"Is this a Pokeymans convention?  How cute!  My little cousin loves Japanimation.  Which one are you?  Swordmon?"

Despite the face I was clearly dressed as a maid?

That seems to be where the "Uncertain" in "UncertainKitten" comes from.

What, looking like jailbait but being over 18? Never really thought I looked jailbaity anyway but...yeah.

In a good D/S relationship, it's actually the Dom that has the hard job; balancing his desires and maximizing pleasure for his sub, keeping them safe during a session, and not crossing any boundaries. The sub, in return needs to be able to communicate clearly and effectively, and know their boundaries.

Quite true. Though, I try to do my best to please a master.

UK looked at least 23 to me

but meh

Maybe if I pay a visit to the land of summons...