I'm actually really angry about this, I say, as I'm sitting in a 500+ queue to even PLAY THE FUCKING GAME.
Have you tried switching the channel before "Entering the World"? After being kicked out of game, I've had less packed channels get me back in right away (2 or 3 dots). I actually haven't had to wait in queues at all although that may be related to the time of day I play, evening PST.
I don't actually get crushing lag often, just occasionally when interacting with NPCs. The bigger problem seems to be mob respawn rate and that everyone seems to be progressing in a giant slow ball. Tenet Garden is starting to show that for me and for the sake of sanity, I've given up on being a quest/collection completionist for now and try to power through to my desired areas (50 dungeon, Constructor Chapel, 90 dungeon, Stele Road for Broom Trap regents). There are only a few people lvl 100 as evidenced by Megaphone requests for Mission parties.
And I haven't gotten attached to Orsha server (saved on using my Token; earliest would be for Tenet Dungeon) so I wouldn't mind moving if that option came up earlier.